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Posted July 26, Reviewed by Jessica Schrader. Why is it so hard for people to say what they mean, and mean what they say, sometimes? Many people never learn how to appropriately say what they mean, and mean what they say. In school, if you dare to react negatively to what a teacher who might be wrong says to you, there are consequences for speaking out.
Parents are often not good at the communication process so they may shade the truth, become overly bullying or overly passive, and neglect to model good communication in their behavior. Think about the bosses, co-workers, friends, teachers, and colleagues you may have had over the years who simply were not good at communicating.
You may have learned, months or years later, about something you did to offend them or something important they neglected to share. People are hurt when the truth comes out later, but why is telling the truth at the time such a hard thing to do? People who address issues, or bring something up to someone that could be perceived as hurtful, are looked upon as the problem.
If you point out what someone else has done wrong, instead of the person considering the feedback and having an objective conversation, the threat is there that they will go off and tell someone else about what a mean person you really are.
When you grow up without good role modeling, how can you learn to say what you mean and feel good about it, while leaving the other person with their confidence and security in place? It takes practice and diligence, but the are worth it.
Consider these seven steps to being a more authentic communicator:. Beverly D. Flaxington Understand Other People.
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